“People who settle life immediately are boring. Latecomers? We are the ones who make the world go round. „You can take your time, Mabel, but what you can’t do is waste it.” Paul Rudd’s words dedicated to Selena Gomez in an episode of the series Just murders in the building. The first season was already a musical to be called Late bloomer (In Spanish, people blooming Late), but the third, currently airing, is a heartfelt tribute to those who waited until maturity to achieve what they wanted; Something in keeping with current pop culture processes, as evidenced by the renaissance and acclaim that actresses from Jennifer Coolidge to Michael Yeoh have received at a mature stage in their careers.
This year’s book was published by Raquel Lopez Emotional Management Guide (2023), believes that the concept Late bloomer That in itself is „revolutionary” and paradoxical. „It’s a revolution, people don’t limit themselves to follow what is expected of them by their age, they allow themselves or their profession to discover, experiment and fail at a later age than is socially expected, after all, they are afraid to go for it and look for opportunities to achieve it. On the other hand, it is normal that I can’t help but think that by the age of 18, knowing what you want to dedicate your whole life to and believing that the right way to achieve it right away is wrong. Your dream job Success and still he is not happy. But they are so deep in that life that they don’t know how to get out of it or look outside.” Mini point for latecomers!
Against fulfilling dreams and goals quickly
According to author Rich Carlgard in his 2019 book Late Bloomers: The Hidden Power of Learning and Success at Your Own Pace (The Hidden Strengths of Learning and Success at Your Own Pace), and even has a scientific explanation from some. Flowers Later in life. The executive function of the brain does not mature until age 25, sometimes later. In fact, some abilities peak at different ages, allowing for different periods of individual excellence.
When Jennifer Aniston accepted A journalism award The Hollywood Reporter In 2021, from the stage she told how she thought, contrary to what she believed, she was actually one. Late bloomer. “A numerologist did his mystical numerology with me and said that apparently, my numbers indicated very clearly that I was. Late bloomer. I said, “Are you sure?” I said. „I thought she didn’t have a television,” the actress joked. „At first I was surprised by this label, like I was an achiever who hadn’t reached my full potential. However, I hadn’t done my best work yet, either as an artist or as a person. That’s when Aniston turned her life around.
The danger of over-ambitious goals
„We live in an age of entitlement,” says Raquel Lopez. „We’ve been sold that if you work hard and pursue your dreams, they will come true, but in reality this happens to a small percentage of people. Nobel Prize winner for economics Joseph Stiglitz said that 90% of people born poor are poor no matter how hard they try, and 90% of people born rich die rich even if they don’t deserve it. talks about. That’s why it’s important to review expectations and make sure you’re flexible with them. „Maybe your dream is to be a professional, famous singer and make a living out of it, and you’re not able to achieve that, but that’s not the only way to be happy.”
It is not easy to be proud of being Late bloomer In a culture that rewards immediacy and impatience, according to Rich Carlgard (who cleaned dishes and worked as a night watchman before starting a tech magazine in Silicon Valley and becoming a journalist at Forbes), Late bloomer They have their own strengths that lead to success and personal satisfaction. „All these qualities – curiosity, compassion, resilience, balance, intelligence and wisdom – are only achieved over time,” he writes.
Elusive patience
Elizabeth Clapps, editor As long as you like me (2023), is concerned with the self-indulgence of immediate and effortless entertainment: “Now we don’t need to read books, we can listen to them. More and more devices are being invented to make our lives easier and to complete certain tasks faster. Patience is not very practical, let’s see what consequences this has… I think it is necessary to learn to stop. For her part, Raquel López emphasizes how „less” it is, as the years go by, society seems to give people fewer opportunities because of age, or those who continue to try to achieve their goals are labeled as crazy or naive. „If you’re clear about your goal, it’s moderately acceptable and aligned with you, patience will keep you on track,” he insists.
Although the message that everything will come and that effort and perseverance will guarantee the achievement of dreams is little less than the magic from a rooibos tea bag or Mr. Wonderful cup, Clapps insists not to give up after a certain age even if he is not where he is. He believed: „There are no magic formulas, but sharing this feeling of failure with others is true, we have all the goals we haven’t yet achieved, it’s a part of life that helps us understand that nothing can happen. Unlike what we’ve been led to believe with motivational slogans like „If you want, you can”, Everything is not dependent on itself. „Love is not everything.”
The final touch? A character’s words Only murders in the building Oliver, played by Martin Short. „The most important part of chasing a dream is that those who chase it with you have the ability to overcome the doubters and choose to believe that their dream will come true in time.” Or not, we added. And nothing happens.
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