Prince Harry remembers the pain of the breakup

The Duke of Sussex had an emotional conversation about grief and loss with a charity founder who helps military families cope with the loss of a loved one.

„You believe that the person who lost you has to be sad for as long as they want to prove that they missed you,” said Prince Harry, whose mother, Diana, Princess of Wales, died when he was 12.

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In a video released by the charity, Nikki Scott, founder of Scotty’s Little Soldiers, from Norfolk, tells the prince the moment she broke the news to her son in 2009 that her husband had been killed in Afghanistan. „It shattered his world. It was the worst,” she says. „How do you say this at five years old?”

Prince Harry, an ambassador for the charity who has helped with its children’s events, dressed as Father Christmas, describes how difficult it is to talk about feelings of loss.

„It’s a very difficult thing, especially for kids, who say, 'I don’t want to talk about it because it will upset me,'” she says.

„But if I talk about it, if I celebrate their life, then actually, things get easier, as opposed to saying, 'I’m not going to talk about it, the best form of coping,’ when in reality it’s not.” said the prince.

„If you suppress it long enough, it can’t be suppressed forever. It’s not sustainable. It will eat you up inside.”

Prince also highlights how distressing it can be for people who are reluctant to talk about their feelings of grief.

„Especially when every defense mechanism in your mind and nervous system and everything else is saying, 'Don’t go there,'” he says.

Aiming to help 1,000 young people each year, he praised Ms Scott’s efforts in supporting other families through such difficult times.

At the end of the conversation, she says: „I feel like hugging you,” to which the prince replies: „Let’s do it.”